NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF UNSTABLE HOME ON CHILD DEVELOPMENT
Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see. Neil Postman
We are often asked, why we do what we do. Today, we are glad to share one and topmost reason why ‘revealing true identity’ is our business at LYNX Laboratories.
We love children. Oh, yes we do! Children are our greatest asset and sources of our future success, yet the health and well- being of this “greatest asset” is failing.
As common sense would suggest and as research confirms, children tend to do best in stable households, where they know what to expect and feel (perhaps unconsciously) that their relationships, health, and safety are basically secure. Undergoing repeated transitions can cause stress by threatening this feeling and undermining kids’ and their parents’ sense of control over their lives, which then tends to worsen parenting and to lower children’s academic achievement and mental health.
Let us quickly run through the causes of unstable home and effect on child’s development
- Paternity Disputes:
A paternity dispute is an argument about the identity of the father of a child, For example, if the mother was married at the time of conception, there is a rebuttable presumption that the husband is the father of the child, this leaves ugly, unwanted stains on the fabric of the child lives, parental disputes leaves children struggling emotionally.
Sadness can lead to isolation, loneliness, and social difficulties. Children may also underperform academically as a result of their parent’s break-up. Anger can also be seen as children grapple with feelings of abandonment, guilt, worry or blame towards another parent.
Professor Harold of the University of Leicester said the “Children exposed to everyday conflicts between their parents — conflicts that are non-violent, but frequent, intense and poorly resolved — are at elevated risk for mental health problems,
- Financial Troubles and unemployment:
When the bills pile up, it’s easy to feel stressed, potentially leading to an increased risk of family problems. However, financial insecurities do not only affect the person experiencing stress. Studies have found that chronic stress can be “contagious” – showing detrimental effects on children.
There are also links that parental stress can lead children to behavioral problems, difficulty in handling stress themselves, and increase the risk of mental illness. According to David Code, author of Kids Pick Up On Everything: How Parental Stress is Toxic to Kids, a parent’s level of chronic stress can alter their child’s make-up. For example, Families that experience financial hardship may end up creating an unstable environment for a child who is not able to have his or her material needs met.
A recent study on prenatal exposure to maternal depression also found that women who are depressed or anxious during pregnancy can actually silence the stress-hormone-receptor gene in their child. When this gene is silenced, it can be extremely difficult to cope with adverse situations, leaving a person more vulnerable to developing mental disorders.
- Infidelity and unfaithfulness: Regardless of their age, children whose parents have been unfaithful often react with intense feelings of anger, anxiety, guilt, shame, sadness, and confusion. They may act out, regress, or withdraw. They may feel pressured to win back the love of the unfaithful parent or to become the caretaker of the betrayed parent. The bottom line is that when parents are role models of infidelity, their children can’t help but react—and they may have a particularly hard time finding their way through the challenging time of dating and marriage.
- Divorce: After a divorce, children from pre-school through late adolescence can experience deficits in emotional development. Children of all ages may seem tearful or depressed, which is a state that can last for several years after a child’s parents’ have separated, explains psychologist Lori Rappaport. Additionally, some older children may show very little emotional reaction to their parents’ divorce. According to Lori Rappaport, this may not be developmentally beneficial. Some children who show little emotional response are actually bottling up their negative feelings. This emotional suppression makes it difficult for parents, teachers and therapists to help the child process her feelings in developmentally appropriate ways.
- Remarrying: Getting married to another spouse be it the man or the woman sometimes leads to unstable home, because there will be lots of changes in the house. For a child who is use to mum and dad now as to face the issues of living and sharing affection with new sets of family especially if there are step children, this affects them physiologically, and then new things will be brought in to the home and this affects the child because the child is already used to a particular way of life changing to another will definitely affects the child development. The child will not feel securely attached to the new parent or probably not experience consistent care-giving as his mum or dad will do, will end up being anxious and prone to living a depressed life.
Here are few things you can do to help your child out of that situation
- Conscious of talking to your child.
- Compromise for your child.
- Find the good in them and praise it.
- Make time to take care of your child.
- You have to be patient with them (Parenthood doesn’t come with a manual and there will be a lot of trial and error as you figure out what works best to help your child).
- Do your best to create a home that is low on stress, safe, and supportive.
- Let your child know that they can talk to you about their thoughts, feelings, or difficult situations they’re dealing with.
- Routines give a sense of stability to children and teens, especially those who struggle with anxiety.
Parenting is one of the most important tasks we undertake. It doesn’t always come naturally, though; it takes practice and patience.
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